😃 5 ways to Identify that your Lover is a Toxic Lover and 5 ways to save yourself 

If even 2 of these are suitable with your partner then indeed it's toxic love

1. They always(not once or twice but majorly always) have excuses when it comes to fulfilling something (animate or inanimate). They always give you lame reasons which simply shows that they wouldn't care to go an extra mile for you.

2. They have their own needs as a priority and are also impulsive in imposing their wishes upon you. They can't stand you having your own opinion in defiance of theirs. They take everything too personally and let out their frustrations over you not caring how much they would hurt you in this process. Your pain doesn't mean a thing to them

3. They take you for granted, no matter what they do they feel that you're indeed entitled to put up with their shit and that you will keep on forgiving them even when they are not sorry. Such people give no value to your personal emotions and only act upon their own need of you. Such 'Love' is a disgrace to be called love because it renders the person at the receiving end drained and is left to fight an endless battle for mere approval from the dominant (where the dominant is never truly satisfied no matter what you do).

4. They absolutely have no accountability whether they would be honest/loyal to you or not because in whichever way they are always ready to show you the door and you're totally powerless even to negotiate for your basic rights in a relationship. They give too little of themselves to you and demand the world out your existence.

5. They try to cut you off from people who maybe your friends or ones in know how, also they would scrutinize every action of yours and judge you personally. They make you so isolated in your very own world that you have not much confidants left hence they become the ruling factor in your life. 

It's also noteworthy that when in a relationship where there is no take & only give and where you cry more and laugh less then it is most likely to be a toxic relationship.

How do you save yourself ?

It's rather shocking that once you're a damsel in distress it's important that the damsel wants to come out of her distress! If you don't get what I mean then here it is :

It's a shocking observation that when you're in a toxic relationship you seldom feel like coming out of it, in fact you're engrossed till such an extent that you actually do everything humanly possible to keep putting up with the shit that totally tears you apart 'Daily'.

Sounds silly but step one to get out of shit is wanting to get out of shit.

1. You must first see things realistically (nor optimistically neither pessimistically). See that it's going no where and that you'll keep going round and round & still stay in the middle of no where. See how bad it has actually gotten and that you're in more pain than happiness. 

2. See your own self worth irrespective of how and what is shown to you by your dominant. You must see that there is a better life beyond the shit you that you have been putting up for so long and that there are people capable enough of giving you the love that you deserve.

3. Discover your own hidden aspects, introspect your almost dead intellectual growth and get back in touch with pampering your own self. Try to find love for self and self respect.

4. See the good part in the process of letting go off something that doesn't make you happy anymore. See a bright future of yourself beyond the sleepless nights of anxiety .

5. Get in touch with reality that sure it will hurt you when in the first place you will take yourself out of this situation ( a toxic lover becomes an addiction often, but just like a bad drug you 'need' to get out of this addiction ), it will eventually result in a better life & life style where you can discover 'real' true love which would empower you in every way and not cause the vice versa.

We hope this article helps you gather a better prospective over relationships and how emotional toxicity can damage your mental health.
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